Why Ease Can Feel So Uncomfortable
Something I’ve always known about myself is that I can perform well under pressure.
When there's a deadline, a problem to solve or something that needs my attention, I know how to get moving.
And it’s something I hear a lot from my high performing clients.
There's something about pressure that makes everything feel very clear.
You know what needs to happen.
You focus.
You get it done.
But what happens when there isn't a sense of urgency?
What happens when you actually have space?
I've noticed that this can feel surprisingly uncomfortable.
You might have time in your week and still feel like you should be doing more.
You might finish everything on your list and immediately start looking for the next thing.
You might even find yourself creating urgency because urgency has become so familiar.
That's something I looked at very deeply a few years ago in my own business..
Because I wanted more ease, more space in my week and to take more time away.
Ultimately I wanted to enjoy the business I'd worked so hard to build.
And creating that kind of business required me to make decisions differently.
It means having the conversation before it becomes a problem.
Looking at the numbers before there's pressure.
Setting the boundary before I'm exhausted.
Putting the right systems in place before I desperately need them.
Essentially, doing today what I know will make tomorrow easier.
And there's something I've come to appreciate about that.
Ease is created before you need it.
Essentially, we need to think more considerably about our future selves.
Because every time you put something off, your future self has to deal with it.
The email you don't send, the conversation you avoid, the decision you keep postponing or the numbers you don't want to look at.
Your future self inherits all of it.
Those avoidance or ‘busy’ behaviours, create an underlying hum that can make you feel like you’re doing something when in reality it’s just a level of stress that justifies a sense of ‘I’m doing all I can right now’.
So instead you can ask a different question:
What can I do today that my future self will be grateful I handled?
It changes the way you think about action.
You don't have to wait until something becomes urgent to get the pay off.
You can make the decision to act now because you know it's the right thing for the business you're creating. It makes you accountable to someone other than the present moment you, who thinks no one will know.
That's where leadership comes into it.
Because creating ease requires you to lead.
You have to make the decision, set the boundary and take responsibility.
You get to decide what kind of business you actually want to run.
It can take some deep inner work to become more comfortable with that.
To let things be calm without assuming you’ve forgotten something or that you should be doing more.
To enjoy having space knowing you’ve got everything handled rather than immediately filling it.
To trust that your business can continue moving forward without everything needing to feel urgent.
So perhaps the question isn't simply:
"How can I create more ease?"
Perhaps it's:
"What am I still waiting to become urgent before I deal with it?"
That's what I'm exploring in this week's episode of The Coaching Circle Podcast.
🎧 Episode 153 – Why Ease Can Feel So Uncomfortable
Because the business you want to enjoy tomorrow is being shaped by the decisions you're willing to make today.
I'd love to hear what resonates with you.
